Being a Wife - God's Way

Sometimes, I need a refresher course on being a Biblical wife.  It's so easy to go with the cultural norm and forget what God wants me to be.  Here are some things that I needed to be reminded of:

Genesis 2:18

¹⁸ And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

 

Help

1. To aid; to assist; to lend strength or means towards effecting a purpose; as, to help a man in his work
2. To assist; to succor; to lend means of deliverance; as, to help one in distress

Meet

Fit; suitable; proper; qualified; convenient; adapted, as to a use or purpose.

Genesis 3:16

¹⁶ Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Desire
4. Love; affection.
Rule
1. To govern; to control the will and actions of others, either by arbitrary power and authority, or by established laws. 

Titus 2:3-5

³ The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

⁴ That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

⁵ To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Sober
1. Temperate, Regular; calm; not under the influence of passion;

Discreet

1. Prudent; wise in avoiding errors or evil, and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose; circumspect; cautious; wary; not rash.
Chaste

pure; genuine; uncorrupt

Keeper

One who has the care, custody or superintendence of any thing.

Obedient

Submissive to authority; yielding compliance with commands, orders or injunctions; performing what is required, or abstaining from what is forbid.
Submissive
a. Yielding to the will or power of another; obedient.
1. Humble; acknowledging one's inferiority; testifying one's submission.

Ephesians 5:22-33

 ²² Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

²³ For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Submit
2. To yield, resign or surrender to the power, will or authority of another
Head

3. A chief; a principal person; a leader; a commander; one who has the first rank or place,and to whom others are subordinate; as the head of an army; the head of a sect or party.

 Eph. 5:33

³³ Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Reverence
1. Fear mingled with respect and esteem; veneration.
Veneration
The highest degree of respect and reverence; respect mingled with some degree of awe; a feeling or sentiment excited by the dignity and superiority of a person, or by the sacredness of his character, and with regard to place, by its consecration to sacred services.

1 Peter 3:1-6

3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

² While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
³ Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
⁴ But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
⁵ For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
⁶ Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Subjection
1. The act of subduing; the act of vanquishing and bringing under the dominion of another.

Conversation
1. General course of manners; behavior; deportment; especially as it respects morals.
Meek
1. Mild of temper; soft; gentle; not easily provoked or irritated; yielding; given to forbearance under injuries.
Quiet
3. Peaceable; not turbulent; not giving offense; not exciting controversy, disorder or trouble; mild; meek; contented

Proverbs 31:10-31

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

¹¹ The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
¹² She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
¹³ She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
¹⁴ She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
¹⁵ She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
¹⁶ She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
¹⁷ She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
¹⁸ She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
¹⁹ She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
²⁰ She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
²¹ She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
²² She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
²³ Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
²⁴ She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
²⁵ Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
²⁶ She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
²⁷ She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
²⁸ Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
²⁹ Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
³⁰ Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
³¹ Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

  
Wow!  Guess I still need to work on a few areas!