This blog is simply the telling of one helpmeet and mother's quest to fulfill her God-ordained destiny. It is written with the hopes that other young women will embrace their calling to be godly wives and mothers; that they will be encouraged to love their husband and children and will find contentment in being keepers at home.

Friday, May 1, 2015

Growing Little Men

This morning, I dropped Isaac off to finish a job he started yesterday.  It all began when I saw an ad in the classifieds looking for a teen-age boy to rake a lady's lawn for $20.00.  Isaac had planned all winter how he was going to start a lawn-mowing business, saving up his money to purchase a riding lawn mower.  Ideally, he would like to purchase a zero turn riding lawn mower.  He plans to save up and purchase a trailer to haul his mower the following summer and then he wants save up and purchase a truck to haul it all with the following summer. 

The lady hired Isaac and was so impressed with the job that he did that she posted a referral in the classifieds for him.  She called him a "very mannerly dolly", which caused quite a bit of embarrassment on his part.

Despite his embarrassment, Isaac is learning the meaning of the scripture, "Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right." This has led to several conversations about gaining and keeping a good reputation.

The job he was finishing this morning was one that he received because of this lady's referral.   The gentleman told Isaac he really appreciated his work ethic and paid him accordingly. Raking lawns is a lot harder than it sounds, trust me, we raked our back yard this week and I'm speaking from experience! 

While there are many different view points about raising children and if/how frequently/how early they should or should not be allowed to work, my personal opinion has always been that it's our duty as parents to prepare our children for life.  Like it or not, work is a part of life and it does not necessarily come natural to some or even most children.  Attitudes are caught not necessarily taught, in other words, do your children see you taking joy in your housework or do they see you modeling a complaining, negative attitude every time you have to clean the bathroom?

Children need to learn to work hard, do a job thoroughly and most importantly to learn that there is joy in work.   Because I felt it was my responsibility to train my children to be good workers, I began this training early.  Children love to imitate adults and I used this to my benefit.  When they were just toddlers and wanted to help with the dishes, I pulled up a chair and let them rinse while I washed.  Yes, we had more water on the counter and floor than in the sink, but we had a grand time.  Singing, sharing children loved helping with the dishes.

When that three-year-old wanted to dust, I assented quickly, hiding pennies to remind him of the places that were easily forgotten.  My nine-year-old still asks me to hide pennies for her, although she prefers "dimes and quarters"!  

We listened to stories on CD while starting our seeds for the garden and  Anna told us stories as we folded laundry.  Pointing out bird songs and singing while weeding the garden helped the time go faster.  My kids were like all kids...the row was not always weeded thoroughly.   I tried to be understanding of their abilities.  A five-year-old does not weed like a twelve-year-old nor does he have the same stamina.  I did not expect them to be out there for hours at a time.  We would all go out together and for the little ones, I would assign one row, promising them they could run through the sprinkler when they were finished.  The older ones normally did two rows and we would call it quits for the day.  Learning to quit while everyone is still having a good time (or at least not overtired) is essential.

We explained to our kids that we were a family and as such we all needed to work together.  The Bible states that if you don't work, you don't eat.  They did not receive an allowance for helping clean.  Occasionally, when they needed money for something, we would give them money for doing a specific job.

Our children have had many different opportunities to work for other people; picking rocks, raking leaves, mowing lawns, hauling & stacking wood, painting bee boxes, weeding gardens, babysitting, cleaning houses, taking care of animals, secretarial work, photo shoots, and working at the local coffee shop.  None of these would have been possible, had they not learned to work hard and to do a thorough job when they were young in our home. 

Just recently, Anna's boss from the Coffee Shop called and told me how much she loved and appreciated Anna and how glad she was that she was back in town.  A man called me up to tell me what a hard worker Kara is.

As parents, we are now reaping the benefits of the seeds that we sowed into their lives when they were younger.

1 comment:

Giftmela said...

Did he bought the lawn mower? I will do this this winter :)